There is nothing like being a parent to make you feel on top of the world and thinking like you’ve cracked it one minute to thinking you are utterly useless and not cut out for it, the next.
In the 10 weeks I’ve been a Mama to James, the same questions have cropped up.
Does he sleep through the night yet?
Does he self settle?
No, he prefers to be settled by Mama or Dad.
Oh, you’ve spoilt him then?
No. How do you spoil a baby? He does like to be carried but he is A BABY. They dont know any different.
But its that last one that always gets me.
I always feel like a failure when someone comments that James is spoilt because he wants to come out of his carseat in Sainsburys after screaming bloody murder. Even if you’re doing a cutesy voice like ‘oh who’s a spoilt little boy, you’ve got Mummy wrapped around your finger’
Yes, yes he has. He is only 10 weeks old. He depends on me to feed, change, clothe and wash him.
And on the other hand, if I left him to cry and get red faced and produce just enough tears to make your heart break, I get looked at like im neglecting my child. That look of ‘How dare I leave my child to cry while I pay for my shopping?’
So either way, I’m not doing what I should.
Something I have learnt since becoming a Mum, there really is no right or wrong. Every child is different. What might work for your child might not for another.
But as long as your child is safe, healthy and happy, then that is all that matters.
Babies are babies for such a short time, so shoot me for wanting to cuddle my baby while he is sleeping instead of putting him in his cot. He’ll get used to it some day.
And if he doesnt, you can all tell me ‘I told you so’.
But until then….how can I resist.